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I'm too bitter
My local group has been...less than I expected.
I've been here for a long time & have met lots of people. Some do not know their boundaries. Some don't know appropriate from inappropriate. The most recent experience I've had has torn me in two. This old woman (who has been a part of this group for a long time) became ill. She needed help. Her group? No one knew. No one helped out. It was a matter of "no one knew therefore it isn't anyone's fault" are they still accountable for the old woman? At the same time, I was getting to know another woman (younger) who decided to be underhanded and used me to get her own way. She is severely mentally ill. I think if i try to tell her how wrong her actions were she'll throw a tantrum(mentality of a 15 yr old) or panic so much she'll fall to the ground/or cry. These or deny to know what I'm talking about.

With these experiences it seems like God is trying to tell me to put some distance between them and me(even though they've been my group for so long). What should I do?

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Hello Kelpp,

After reading your experience, I understand was probably a rough time for you and your group. But now it seems that (in this moment) things have settled and you are now left with questions regarding the future and if the group is right for you. 

You made the subject line I'm too bitter. Perhaps this gives you a clue to what has happened. You have allowed (and this is normal, This happens to me) the energy of those around you to affect you in a negative manner. Separation is always a natural response to this. But it is also very important to never give up on your friends. I do not know anything about this group but if they are close to you and connected to your spirit in positive way, this is something to consider. 

Also, you say that God is trying or may be trying to give you a signal to put distance between them. You must be careful because in my experience God rarely works in this manner. God is within you, part of you. He is also within each of the people in your group and therefore part of them. We are all one connected by spirit, but unfortunately we are separated by the illusions created by human-kind such as by gender, race, culture, and many other things. Remembering the truth that we are all one, throughout the day, brings spiritual  enlightenment to the individual. 

God, of course, wants you to be spiritually balanced and connected with him. This is the one of 2. But he also wants you to love you neighbor as yourself. This is 2 of 2.  If you are unable to be with the group and maintain your spiritual balance. Separation is the answer. If you think you can be in the group and also be at peace then you could go back. Or take some time of separation for your own personal healing (understanding, forgiveness, etc..) and then return to help your friends. this could also be the case. Perhaps these are 3 good options. There could be more. 

It is up to you and your connection with God to make the decision.

may light be with you, Jesse
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Before I found this group, I was in a group that didn’t want any spirituality or religion mentioned.
They loved to pick on anyone who disagreed with them. And could be viscous doing so.
So after a year I left.
I really do not know how anyone can not believe in Someone greater than themselves.
They seemed to be kids on a playground, each trying to be in charge.
Indeed such a group can bring one down, however knowing that they are where they need to be to learn what they need to learn, I realized that eventually they will want to change by quitting their bad actions and turn them into good actions.

Hopefully I planted seeds their, that some will think about. 

Each of us end up where we need to be in our life journey, both on line and in our everyday life....IMHO
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Hello kelp. Skytiger talks a lot of sense, however I'm not sure where you are coming from, or for that matter going to. I don't understand your reference to the old lady, if no one knew she needed help how could anyone help? If a tree falls in the forest and there is no one to witness it does it make a sound? And the younger woman who used you for her own ends? 
We all walk our path through life and meet people and encounter various events, some good, some not so good. Nothing happens by accident, there is no such thing as coincidence. All these things are there for us to learn from. No one is accountable for anothers action. Did you help the old woman?

There is a Taoist story of an old farmer who had worked his crops for many years. One day his horse ran away. Upon hearing the news, his neighbors came to visit.
"Such bad luck," they said sympathetically.
"We'll see," the farmer replied.
The next morning the horse returned, bringing with it three other wild horses.
"How wonderful," the neighbors exclaimed.
"We'll see," replied the old man.
The following day, his son tried to ride one of the untamed horses, was thrown, and broke his leg. The neighbors again came to offer their sympathy on his misfortune.
"We'll see," answered the farmer.
The day after, military officials came to the village to draft young men into the army. Seeing that the son's leg was broken, they passed him by. The neighbors congratulated the farmer on how well things had turned out.
"We'll see" said the farmer.

It's not what happens around us that's important, the important thing is how we react towards them that is important. We must see life as a learning process and grow and adapt. It's not always pleasant, and sometimes painful, but when we accept that we can't change anything but ourselves we will grow and find peace.
If you feel the group you have joined is not for you, walk away, but the decision has to be yours. In my life I find that you only get out of something what you put in. Maybe you are putting in much and getting nothing back, or are you expecting too much. I too have done this in the past. I have walked away from groups because I was not getting what I expected from them. Maybe I expected too much, but at the end of the day you have to be happy. I now run my own group, I don't call it 'my group' I just call it 'The group', there are no leaders or teachers, we are all students and my aim is for all the  students to be better than me.
I hope that you find that which you seek. There are many paths, there are no wrong paths but there are different paths. There is a right path for each of us. You will know it when you see it.
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